One third, more or less, of all the sorrow that the person I think I am must endure is unavoidable. It is the sorrow inherent in the human condition, the price we must pay for being sentient and self-conscious organisms, aspirants to liberation, but subject to the laws of nature and under orders to keep on marching, through irreversible time, through a world wholly indifferent to our well-being, toward decrepitude and the certainty of death. The remaining two thirds of all sorrow is homemade and, so far as the universe is concerned, unnecessary.
Many variables come into play this time of year resulting in the winter blues or even deeper emotional struggles.
Growing evidence suggests that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)—a type of talk therapy—can also help to identify negative self-defeating thoughts and then reframe them into something that’s more accurate, less negative, and maybe even a little more positive. The ‘behavioral’ part of CBT explores the choice to engage new behaviors resulting in positive outcomes.
Sometimes exercising in self talk is very helpful. Practicing self talk verbally with a therapist can be extremely beneficial. Call me to explore this process !
Reaching Goals & Navigating Obstacles
It is a new year & a new beginning for us in many ways! How to begin again & choose a new path towards achieving what you want in life & for yourself?
We are a desire driven species fueled by passion, motivation & inspiration as well as purpose. Whether it’s objects or careers we see things we want for ourselves & others. Some people seem to reach their goals while other loose aim of what they want for various reasons.
What determines whether we achieve our goals or not? Most often it’s the obstacles we face along the way. No matter what we want it’s inevitable that something will get in the way. Obstacles are neither positive or negative, they are simply there. How we choose to navigate them is our own free will. We are certainly challenged in life & even suffering is a part of our journey. We will likely suffer the loss of most of the people we meet in life. Most of life’s lessons that we learn from are often painful ones. Others have deep meaning in others memorable ways. I believe these are the times for us to gain knowledge & wisdom.
Quite often we avoid our feelings especially painful ones in an effort to manage life. At times some obstacles feel unnavigable & we feel like quitting, giving up or saying “f… it.”
Sometimes we struggle with the smallest of obstacles & feel overwhelmed if yet another obstacle reveals itself no matter it’s size. This is when individuals suffer the most especially if they have a history of being victimized or suffering meaninglessly.
When feelings are intense & people feel overwhelmed it’s hard to cope with obstacles. We have trouble learning from the choices we have made & often retreat into the misery we feel loosing the opportunity to learn & gain knowledge.
Pain & suffering can be our greatest teachers. We do not forget what matters to us. If we do not learn from our failures we are destined to repeat them. There is knowledge & wisdom to be gained from the meaning of our suffering. If we do not learn then it is meaningless suffering.
The path to achieving your goals is determined by what matters to you. You navigate the obstacles you face by keeping your aim on what truly matters especially when it is most challenging. When challenged we can gain wisdom from the meaning of the feelings we experience whether positive or negative.
Conversations about wisdom have resulted in defining it as, “knowledge gained through experience.” Or better yet, “knowledge gained through suffering.”
If we don’t learn from our feelings or suffering it’s meaningless suffering.
Call me at 502-295-5008 to further explore how to stay on path to reaching your destiny. It’s not far off in the future or down the road. It is the present, it’s the next choice right in front of you. The choice will either keep aim on your path or lead you off the path of getting what you want.
Tevis Steere, LCSW
There are many transitions in life and none are likely more difficult than the one leaving high school and moving towards making independent choices regarding education and occupation. There are countless messages on what course of actions towards Adulthood one “should” take from parents and society as well as culture and religion. Choosing your own path with the trusting influences of others can be stressful, isolating and even depressing! Adding the additional stress of moving away from home as well as the friends and dependable routines and environment you have known to trust can be overwhelming. Today’s socioeconomic environment as well as the social media phenomena has cultivated even higher expectations for today’s educational and occupational demands.
In my practice as a Family Therapist I have been meeting with many young adults and their parents struggling with this transition. If you or you are the parent of a young adult experiencing these challenges you are not alone. Call me to further discuss how I can be of assistance to you and your family! 502-295-5008
The Holidays are always a traditional ritual of life that bring many memories. Not only feelings of joy & happiness are experienced during this time of year. Stress can be an overwhelming part of the season due to the demands & expectations we place ourselves. Depression and the feelings associated with depression can intensify during this time of year as well.
The warm & rich traditions of the season can also be associated with conflict, abuse, neglect, loneliness & hardship among other things. Coping through these experiences can be difficult & overbearing. Putting things into perspective with a professional can be the answer.
These are the reasons counselors are busiest during the holiday season. Many family, couple & individual clients I have had in the past often contact me during this time of year due to the additional demands & overwhelming emotions they are experiencing. Often these therapy sessions address a scripted negative dynamic that has been present year round & has intensified due to the emotional intensity of the Holidays. Clients are then presented with the opportunity to address the issues associated with this script & resolve issues that have impeded them from enjoying the seasonal celebrations.
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Individual treatment is often termed as psychotherapy, and is meant to help people with their emotional issues, which can range in severity or intensity. The main aim of this form of therapy is to change the quality of life by defining the path of life clearly, and bringing in more clarity. Whether it is issues repressed from childhood that you are facing, or current life stressors due to divorce, failure or loss of a loved one, a professional psychotherapists can help you revive your mental health through systematic counselling.
Defining the goals and objectives of the counseling sessions in a very direct manner helps clients create change immediately.
Anxiety is something that exists in everyone’s life to a certain extent, and in a way it is medically known to be helpful as well. Because, anxiety helps us stay alert and be reactive to our circumstances, whether joyful or painful. However, when the anxiety reaches the stage where it overwhelms you mentally and physically, and affects your normal routine of life, you need the help of a clinician. Read more
We define the treatment path in couples therapy after patiently listening and carefully understanding the problems couple is facing. Our practical and scientific approach, while balancing and weighing the emotions at stake, helps us bring in the much needed transparency and attachment among the partners. It definitively helps in doing the right thing, and taking the right decision, not only for the relationship, but personally as well.
In today’s competitive world, sleep is more of a luxury than a necessity. Sleep is important for the well being, both emotionally and physically for an individual. Insufficient sleep or no sleep has long lasting health and psychological disorders. If you have been experiencing insomnia, it may be due to a number of factors, including stress, anxiety or depression. In order to address your sleep problem, it is best to consult an experienced psychologist who can help you change your behaviour, manage feelings and emotions that may interfere with your sleep.